Tag: how to do anything better

So You Want to Do Something Better

HenryFord_StarIt doesn’t matter what you are trying to do or what skill you want to improve. There are certain principles that, if followed, create the conditions for change and set you up for success.

Over the next few months you will see these principles unfold and build.  The slow unveiling makes it easy for you to follow along, and actually practice changing something you do for the better.

The first step in making any conscious change is deciding what you would like to do better.  So, put on your thinking cap.

What would you like to learn to DO better?

Did you have a ready answer or did you hesitate?  Are you afraid to give voice or thought to your heart’s desire?  Once again…

What would YOU like to learn to do better?

Write it down.  Scream it from the rooftop.  Mumble it into your coffee.

Expressing your dream draws a line in the sand.  It makes it real.  It makes it possible.  And, it subconsciously sets your brain the task of solving the riddle of making it happen.  Holding back on expressing your un-avowed dreams stifles your creative juices.

The first step to doing better is knowing WHAT you wish to do better.

Once you know what, the next question is how.  Not HOW will you DO better.  That’s what this book is about.  No, the real question is: How will you know it IS better?

Take the time to ponder, journal, cogitate, chew, discuss, dissect.  What would it take for you to see (and sense) that what you wish to do better actually IS better?

This is your chance to dream.  Imagine yourself doing whatever it is you want to improve.  How will you know you are doing it better?   How will YOU know?  Forget about how will someone else know. This is about you, your ability to observe what you do and your ability to shift your patterns of behavior to achieve a goal.  What is your goal?

A word of caution.  The question is, “How will you know you are doing BETTER?” not, “How will you know you are perfect?”.  You may read the two questions as subtle distinctions, especially when it comes to setting a goal, but the distance between better and perfect is vast.

So once more:

What do you wish to do better?

How will you know it is better?

 

Sit Down, Shut Up, Pay Attention

Generations of moms echo that phrase, some it seems almost ceaselessly, and with good reason. Locked inside the genetic code of every child is the ability to completely ignore mom’s admonition. But.. MOM IS RIGHT! (A big shout out to mothers everywhere!) Attention is EVERYTHING when you want to do anything.
How well I know.

A year ago I suffered a concussion as the result of an auto accident. The effects are still with me as my brain slowly heals. The biggest challenge – paying attention. My poor little brain gets oh, so distracted. Yesterday, for instance, I was driving home in rush hour traffic. I sat at a light through several cycles waiting to make a left turn. Now mind you, this is a very familiar intersection, one I cross many times each week. No matter the time of day, the cycle is the same — green arrow for left turn followed by green light for all but left turn. I’ve been there, done that innumerable times. Yesterday was the same. I waited through the cycles inching closer to the intersection until I was first in line to make a left turn. The light turned green and away I went… to the collective honking of dozens of horns. For some unknown reason this cycle there was NO green left turn only arrow. I was making a left turn into oncoming traffic. Gratefully, the mayhem of SUVs and minivans and cars all askew was soon behind me and I made it safely to my door.

What got lost in the equation was my attention. I’d dropped my guard – so easy to do with a brain injury – and gone into auto pilot relying on habit instead of full attention. It was a wake up call for sure and a not so subtle reminder of that eternal mom telling me to, “Sit down, Shut up and Pay ATTENTION.”